By Marsha Peterson
Should babies be using sign
language? What is the purpose? Can they really understand the signs? How
do parents start using it with their babies? What are the best words to
use? Will signing keep my baby from talking? Will it help with the terrible twos?
I
am a single mom who has always worked full-time. My family is not
typical; I am raising a child with Down syndrome with autism, and we
live with a Labrador and an attack cat. Using American Sign Language has
been part of our communication since 1993. It was not anything I chose
to do; in fact, it scared me to think I would have to learn how to talk
with my hands. How would I do that? How would I fit learning a new
language into my schedule when my son was just released from a
near-fatal hospital stay at eleven months old? My son is now nineteen
years old and has well over 1,000 signs, and I can tell you firsthand,
it is the most wonderful, rewarding experience you may have, and you
will not believe how it improves bonding.
My son had just come
home from an eight-day stay in the hospital, and his Early Intervention
teacher resumed her home visits. One day she told me she thought we
would need to learn sign language. At that time I was managing
twenty-seven people, including pharmacy, home health care professionals,
and caregivers. Time to learn sign language just was not going to fit
into my schedule. I watched as the teacher introduced the first sign—more—witha
musical toy. That is the key; introduce a new sign with something your
baby enjoys. Food also works great. My son actually learned the sign for
“more” before his teacher left for the day.
The time when I
felt the full impact of how powerful signing is for babies was the day
my son came to me in the kitchen, obviously wanting something. What do
we do when we figure out what baby wants? We usually point in the
direction of the object or say, “This?” and give it to him. What my son
wanted was his Sit ‘n Spin. I pointed in the direction of the toy, but
he did not move. It actually startled me. What I learned from this is
that he wanted me to name that toy. I was still learning how to sign so I
was not sure how to sign Sit ‘n Spin. I called and signed it the
“yellow spin.” He signed and, to his best verbal ability, repeated after
me. From that moment forward I never had an outburst or behavior issue
over the Sit ‘n Spin!
When and how can you start? I would
suggest starting with the first time you feed your baby after birth.
Even though your baby will not do a sign until a few months later,
parents are the ones who need to get in the practice of using the sign,
so start early. When you use “eat” to feed your baby, start slowly. Your
baby will probably be fussing and looking for the source of milk. This
is a great time to say, slowly, while varying the pitch of your voice,
“Eat . . . eat . . . eat.” This first sign will be the hardest one for
you since you are learning the sign and your baby is totally focused on
eating, but hang in there. As you get ready to feed your baby, keep
repeating “eat” by saying and signing it. Soon your baby will see you
signing. You will notice within a few weeks that when your baby fusses
and sees you sign “eat,” your baby will actually stop fussing because he
has learned that the sign means food is coming. This will reinforce
trust as well.
The other sign I think you should start with is
“finished.” Use this sign each time you finish something like changing a
diaper, a bath, eating, etc. There are two reasons this is a good sign
to use. One is that it teaches the concept of being done, which is great
for controlling behavior later. Some parents tell me they cannot get
their baby to sign, yet they know their baby understands the signs. If
you introduce the sign “finished,” you can always use it to train your
child to sign. For instance, if you cannot get your baby to sign “eat”
when they want more food (or you have introduced the sign for “more”),
start to remove the food and say, “Finished?” If your baby is truly not
finished, you will get an outburst. At that time you reinforce the sign
you want your baby to do. “Oh, you want to ‘eat’?” You can help your
baby make the sign as you repeat, “Eat . . . eat . . . eat” once again.
These are two great signs with which to begin. When my son
finished the fourth grade, he had 400 signs; he had 600 when he finished
the sixth grade, and we learned them one at a time. I cannot imagine
any child without some sort of language. A report came out in the spring
of 2011 that compared eight-year-olds who were taught sign language as
infants to those who were not. The children who used sign language
actually had higher IQs. Part of that study suggested that more
intelligent parents were likely to introduce and use signs with their
baby. In any event, signing will help babies make sense of their world a
lot quicker than not using it all.
Does signing keep a baby from
speaking? This idea has been proven false. In fact, findings show babies
talk sooner when they have been taught to sign first. (For more
information, see babysignlanguage.com.)
I could never understand why all
babies from birth to three have no formal educational program like a
baby who is born with a disability. Think about your personal activity
with your baby. Do we not usually try to make them happy? We feed them
and diaper them, but does anyone think about language? Experts say the
first six months are the most important for language development, yet
there is little focus on it.
You can start signing today the very
next time your baby wants to “eat.” Try it. Watch what a difference it
will make. Your baby will love you for it!